4 pages | SMC 1164
To the not-quite 22 year-old Frances "Frank" Folsom, came this distinction: she had her entire wedding planned, down to the smallest detail, by the President of the United States. But far from being a grievous example of governmental over-reach, this surprising solicitude was the offering of a man in love - for President Grover Cleveland, as he writes here to his "Darling Frank", could barely wait to take her in his arms, and for "us two to go away immediately after the ceremony and be together for a week." Young "Frank" had been, for the last nine months, traveling abroad - secretly engaged, all the while, to Cleveland, whom she had literally known (as her father's best friend and her own legal guardian) for her entire life. Now, as she was about to disembark in New York City, news came that her grandfather had died - and Cleveland worried (unnecessarily) whether a postponement of the wedding would now ensue. Cleveland, himself, wanted a simple ceremony as soon as possible, with little, or better still, no notice to the infernal "gossips" of the press. Thus this most remarkable love letter, laying out, in detail, his plans for their marriage ceremony - and begging, at every juncture, her approbation, that all might be (must be, he insisted) as she desired.
Here, too, this marvelous distinction: Cleveland explained that acting as his proxy would be his friend and private secretary Colonel Lamont, who would not only meet her ship and escort her to Washington, but to whom she might, unreservedly, communicate all her dearest wishes and intimate thoughts, about her nuptials:
My darling Frank
I feel to night that you are almost here. It seems a dreadfully long time since I have written to you... I feel dreadfully to think that the first news you receive as you arrive will be of death among your relations... I know that you will be glad to hear that I have made arrangements for us two to go away immediately after the ceremony and be together for a week... But why do I talk of all these things when I have no idea of how you will feel about the date of the ceremony when you know of your Grandfather[']s death?.. Everything will be as you desire... I have thought that perhaps after all you would prefer to have the ceremony on the 2nd as contemplated and reduce it to a very quick affair indeed, though we planned to have it quick in any event. If there is a postponement there will be all sorts of... talk and the propriety of the situation will furnish material for... the gossips... to tell you the truth my Love I mean to leave this to you... only adding that Col Lamont who starts to-morrow morning to meet you and who will hand you this can tell you all you want to know. I want you to talk to him just exactly as freely as you would to me... He knows all my thoughts in connection with the matter except he cannot know how much I love you. Its rather strange to do such things by proxy but in this case it is the only way... and I am sure no one outside of ourselves is more interested or has our welfare and comfort more at heart... I've been awfully good and patient [...] but God knows how much I want to take you in my arms... I cannot think of any more to nite for the Colonel will say all for me except to express my tender and everlasting love. He will even talk to you about the ring and learn from you whether you will let me put it on your finger just before we stand before the minister. If you would like it just as well we have thought it might be better than to try and introduce it into a Presbyterian ceremony. Don't fail to tell him how you desire to have even this matter arranged. You see we have thought of all the slightest detail...
God bless my Darling
On June 2, 1886, Grover Cleveland became the first and only president to be married at the White House. His marriage to "Frank" Folsom was exceptionally happy, and lasted twenty-two years, until his death in 1908. Mrs. Cleveland married again; she outlived Grover by 39 years.